I saw a friend I haven't seen for awhile the other night. A friend who is an accomplished songwriter and songproducer. I had asked him once or twice before if I could just sit with him for awhile and learn a small fraction of what he knows, but it never seemed to work out because we are so busy (he works for the church in music ministry). I thought I was over my obsessive desire for a mentor, but I was wrong. We chatted for awhile, and asked each other about songs we are working on, etc. And I asked again if perhaps I could visit his office sometime to have him help me with some things. He said sure, but we probably both know I didn't really mean it, because I don't really have the time. But there is that small part of me that jumps at every temptation to take shortcuts and have someone else do the hard work for me. And things might be working out in the next couple months where I could make some time. So now I am confused
Do I continue to plug along alone at my nearly unbearably slow pace, and truly learn the craft
OR
Do I ask my friend for help and take the gamble: We might finally finish some of my songs BUT We might just realize we're not compatible and end up pushing farther away
I've messed up musical relationships before because I am just not in the same place as they are and it tends to cause frustration. And I know those times I wasn't really listening to God and what he wanted me to do with my writing, but rather I was just focusing on where I wanted to go with my writing. I just don't know this time if God is re-opening the door with this person because the timing is right or if the enemy is trying to tempt me to shortcut again, to test my patience. I am stuck in indecision and second-guessing.
When do you turn down an opportunity to work with real talent?